Let's get some chat going about it

For me its just desensitization. I was blessed with many encounters all my life. So unless things are going exactly to my liking it takes a while. Ive made sure to marry someone that i am completely satisfied with sexually so i wont stray. Sometimes if things are going exactly to my liking though i dont want it to stop so i hold it in and then that just makes things into a 1 hour thing or longer. It can take up to 3 hours and thats fine with me but my partner may not be up for all that.
I feel we are bombarded with sexuality all our lives, especially growing up in a large metropolis. Desensitization is a real issue. And well the internet kinda threw things overboard too.

To the original question of what can help. If you discuss that your going to do a time thats just what you want. That may be the solution. Or discuss whatever is taboo that your interested in. It should be an open topic with your partner and they should be willing to make it happen and vice versa.
 
I take a Cialis day before, a Viagra an hour before and 50 mg proviron all these help me. Foreplay and dirty talk and change it up. And believe it or not periods of abstinence. We typically go wild for 2 or 3 days when she's in heat and then leave it alone for quite a while. Take breaks for sure and communicate and make it fun.
 
Cumminstech2 said:
There's your problem and solution right there

I think most guys don't realize how much porn effects their real life sex lives. I can pretty much guaruntee you cut the porn and in 3 months youll last a normal like 7 minutes and grow closer with your wife.

Anybody in this thread with any kind of issues.. If you watch porn, there's the answer and solution right there. I promise you.

You know why you older guys didn't experience this when you were younger, its cause you couldn't type whatever you wanted into google and have instant access to it. You jerked your dick to the sears magazine bra section like fucking pilgrims. Real sex was WAY better, so you had no issues.

Now you have instant access to whatever you want whenever you want. Porn has become better than sex, and that's the reason for 99% of these issues.
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I watch zero porn.. I have other issue I beleive. I used to watch porn, but not anymore..
 
Cumminstech2 said:
There's your problem and solution right there

I think most guys don't realize how much porn effects their real life sex lives. I can pretty much guaruntee you cut the porn and in 3 months youll last a normal like 7 minutes and grow closer with your wife.

Anybody in this thread with any kind of issues.. If you watch porn, there's the answer and solution right there. I promise you.

You know why you older guys didn't experience this when you were younger, its cause you couldn't type whatever you wanted into google and have instant access to it. You jerked your dick to the sears magazine bra section like fucking pilgrims. Real sex was WAY better, so you had no issues.

Now you have instant access to whatever you want whenever you want. Porn has become better than sex, and that's the reason for 99% of these issues.
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I 100% agree and have read several comments about it coming from psychologists. It is so evident that porn warps your reality of what sexuality means in many ways. Common, you are not going to fucking assault and face gag the mother of your future or current children, would they do it? Probably, would they enjoy it? I doubt it, if so, once in a blue moon because she was in the mood and her hormones were crazy.

They will even pretend to like it for the sake of the relationship but I really doubt it.

Are there ferocious women bed? Sure, can you have this porn encounters? Sure, but I really doubt that the mother of your children who dream about how beautiful her family and her garden is have this I her mind or priorities.

@Sorbate try abstinence for at least 30 days. I assure you that you will fantasize with your lady in a “romantic” way. Women’s brain are mostly “romantic” ours is animalistic.

Ultimately check your health and go clean with your trt.
 
animal-inside said:
Ever since I was early 20's my problem has always been needing longer and more aggressive sex to blow the load. I thought it was pretty uncommon and more common issue being erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. So I didn't really think to bring it up, but seems like a few guys here share my problem.

It's extremely rare for my wife (or previous women) to get me off with a blow job or handjob. They just can't do it aggressively enough to make the magic happen.

My wife only cums when she's riding me and it doesn't take her long, but she can never make me cum when she's on top. The forward/backward grinding doesn't do fuck all for me, its the in and out that works. She really wants to be able to ride me and get me off while she's getting off, but I don;t think that will ever happen..

I don't watch porn. I don't yank it much.

We've tried waiting as long as possible before banging and the issue is, I get way to horny after 4 or 5 days to not get on the wife, but waiting 4 or 5 days does nothing to make me cum easier.

Nothing seems to give me enough sensitiviely to make me blow wihout speed/aggressive etc.. And again, it takes me awhile

I didn't think it's an issue since the journey is enjoyavle, but the wife feels bad because she think's its her. And she'd like to be able to bj/ride/handjob for me.


I've read about some deffiniccy in a vitamin or mineral causing loss or dimished sensation in the dong before.. I think it might be vitamin B12 defficieny?

Is there anything that causes this or can help?
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Does it change with PED use? Different compounds?

Im surprised no one has mentioned DHT. If you can get an erection but there just isn't any sensitivity I'd be suspecting DHT. I noticed if i used too much saw palmetto or my ran say 100mg -150mg test cyp/ week(natural test actually feels better than this for me) i could still get hard no problem, but the interest just wasnt there to even go through with it. Same thing for me too, i have to think about weird shit to even be interested lol. It actually sucks. It's like I can get hard but its so unsatisfying its like whats the point?
 
CoolRick said:
Does it change with PED use? Different compounds?

Im surprised no one has mentioned DHT. If you can get an erection but there just isn't any sensitivity I'd be suspecting DHT. I noticed if i used too much saw palmetto or my ran say 100mg -150mg test cyp/ week(natural test actually feels better than this for me) i could still get hard no problem, but the interest just wasnt there to even go through with it. Same thing for me too, i have to think about weird shit to even be interested lol. It actually sucks. It's like I can get hard but its so unsatisfying its like whats the point?
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I think i come faster when I'm on a cycle to be honest.. Im on script TRT of 100mg a week.. I do much better blowing easier on 150mg
 
Taureau said:
If you can finish by using your hand then it's not physical. It's mental. The way to be sure is to see how you would do with someone new and exciting. But I know you will not do that. However perhaps your wife would be open to her inviting a friend to join. If she does don't ignore the wife or it will not happen again. Give attention to both but more to your wife. Odds are you get excited enough to come.

And you will have a good memory to recall and help in your future sexual escapades
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Lol, my wife gets hit on by lesbians all the time. No way she would be down with another girl.

Ok this reminds me of a story. Years ago I would drink with my staff all the time. So this new girl starts and wants to party with us. So we get together, her and her boyfriend and me and my wife, we are getting hammered in the hot tub. This girl is pretty drunk and is pretty much sitting on my wife, me and her boyfriend are yelling “kiss, kiss, kiss”, oh I know it would have happened it if my wife was down with it.

My wife was pretty uncomfortable being pretty much sat on by this girl who had worked for us for like a month. Anyhow nothing happened and all was fine.

Until the next day, the girl woke up so embarrassed that she called in the morning saying she couldn’t come in to work anymore because she just couldn’t face us after that. I tried to tell her it was all fine, we were all drunk, no big deal, but it didn’t work. It was too bad, because she was a really good worker.

See when the shop was in Edmonton we always hired hot girls (like beer tank girls at the bar) because there was so many single men in Edmonton, we used it as a selling point. These girls knew they looked good, my wife would teach them how to stick out their ass while serving then upsell these dudes out off all their money, lol.

Funny thing is we would hire our staff out of the pubs. My wife would watch them and how they worked guys for drinks and figured they would be good at upselling meat. So since we were really socialble, lots of times we would hae a group of strangers sitting with us getting drunk, so usually the girls would pop by the table Chat for a bit and my wife after talking to them for a while, see what they were like, offer them a job.

It was fun, but I could have easily got myself in trouble lots of times (not with human rights or anything), but I was under 30, in great shape and these 18/20 year old woman though I was something special, lol. you know the boss man, lol

I’m too old for that now, I am now the age of their dads, lol.

I have a ton of stories from our escapades at work, but I am not sure if I am ready to share. I’ve have already told too much.
 
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Cumminstech2 said:
There's your problem and solution right there

I think most guys don't realize how much porn effects their real life sex lives. I can pretty much guaruntee you cut the porn and in 3 months youll last a normal like 7 minutes and grow closer with your wife.

Anybody in this thread with any kind of issues.. If you watch porn, there's the answer and solution right there. I promise you.

You know why you older guys didn't experience this when you were younger, its cause you couldn't type whatever you wanted into google and have instant access to it. You jerked your dick to the sears magazine bra section like fucking pilgrims. Real sex was WAY better, so you had no issues.

Now you have instant access to whatever you want whenever you want. Porn has become better than sex, and that's the reason for 99% of these issues.
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Why on earth would anyone want to last 7 mins? lol. I dont know about anyone else. But i could spank it 2-3 times a day to porn and I'll still be interested in my wife, intimacy and all. I've always been a horny bastard though, even before gear🤣. I think blaming porn has been come all to popular these days for one's shortcomings. Over indulgence of anything could effect one's relationship just as much.

Alright now off to the the rabbit hole!
 
CoolRick said:
Could be that with 150mg test youre converting more DHT helping with the sensitivity.
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Would a lot of acne be a sign of higher dht conversion or would that maybe be more from high trt dose converting more to estrogen?
 
Sorbate said:
Lol, my wife gets hit on by lesbians all the time. No way she would be down with another girl.

Ok this reminds me of a story. Years ago I would drink with my staff all the time. So this new girl starts and wants to party with us. So we get together, her and her boyfriend and me and my wife, we are getting hammered in the hot tub. This girl is pretty drunk and is pretty much sitting on my wife, me and her boyfriend are yelling “kiss, kiss, kiss”, oh I know it would have happened it if my wife was down with it.

My wife was pretty uncomfortable being pretty much sat on by this girl who had worked for us for like a month. Anyhow nothing happened and all was fine.

Until the next day, the girl woke up so embarrassed that she called in the morning saying she couldn’t come in to work anymore because she just couldn’t face us after that. I tried to tell her it was all fine, we were all drunk, no big deal, but it didn’t work. It was too bad, because she was a really good worker.

See when the shop was in Edmonton we always hired hot girls (like beer tank girls at the bar) because there was so many single men in Edmonton, we used it as a selling point. These girls knew they looked good, my wife would teach them how to stick out their ass while serving then upsell these dudes out off all their money, lol.

Funny thing is we would hire our staff out of the pubs. My wife would watch them and how they worked guys for drinks and figured they would be good at upselling meat. So since we were really socialble, lots of times we would hae a group of strangers sitting with us getting drunk, so usually the girls would pop by the table Chat for a bit and my wife after talking to them for a while, see what they were like, offer them a job.

It was fun, but I could have easily got myself in trouble lots of times (not with human rights or anything), but I was under 30, in great shape and these 18/20 year old woman though I was something special, lol. you know the boss man, lol

I’m too old for that now, I am now the age of their dads, lol.

I have a ton of stories from our escapades at work, but I am not sure if I am ready to share. I’ve have already told too much.
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your may be the age of their dads but the good news is lots of your ladies want a daddy :)
 
Bigbear said:
Would a lot of acne be a sign of higher dht conversion or would that maybe be more from high trt dose converting more to estrogen?
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I could be wrong about this as im not super acne prone. But I tend to get acne when DHT and estrogen aren't balanced. That balance is different for everyone. I've learned recently my biggest indicator is sex drive. If my sex drive is good(like when im off, or even slightly higher) estrogen doesn't seem to be a problem and acne as well. I almost look at DHT as an estrogen antagonist if that even makes sense. For reference i had worse sex drive on 150mg test and it got worse on 100mg. I had better sex drive, even regular morning wood, when completely off than on those doses if you can believe that.

Something to note is im not a high estrogen converter despite having a bit of gyno from puberty. On 150mg test cyp 0.25mg arimidex destroyed my estrogen for nearly 2 weeks. Tension headaches, lethargic etc.
 
Taureau said:
your may be the age of their dads but the good news is lots of your ladies want a daddy :)
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Oh I know that also, but I don’t care anymore.

I don’t need to prove to myself that I can pick up hot women anymore. Meat maid was the last one. Its not fair to my wife even if she doesn’t know. So I have pretty much stopped being flirty.
 
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