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[animal-inside]

Ever since I was early 20's my problem has always been needing longer and more aggressive sex to blow the load. I thought it was pretty uncommon and more common issue being erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. So I didn't really think to bring it up, but seems like a few guys here share my problem.

It's extremely rare for my wife (or previous women) to get me off with a blow job or handjob. They just can't do it aggressively enough to make the magic happen.

My wife only cums when she's riding me and it doesn't take her long, but she can never make me cum when she's on top. The forward/backward grinding doesn't do fuck all for me, its the in and out that works. She really wants to be able to ride me and get me off while she's getting off, but I don;t think that will ever happen..

I don't watch porn. I don't yank it much.

We've tried waiting as long as possible before banging and the issue is, I get way to horny after 4 or 5 days to not get on the wife, but waiting 4 or 5 days does nothing to make me cum easier.

Nothing seems to give me enough sensitiviely to make me blow wihout speed/aggressive etc.. And again, it takes me awhile

I didn't think it's an issue since the journey is enjoyavle, but the wife feels bad because she think's its her. And she'd like to be able to bj/ride/handjob for me.


I've read about some deffiniccy in a vitamin or mineral causing loss or dimished sensation in the dong before.. I think it might be vitamin B12 defficieny?

Is there anything that causes this or can help?

 

[faller]

Is there anything that causes this

Yes, age.

It’s not much different for women. Between the age of 25 and about 57ish my wife was insanely orgasmic. From the moment I started to slide inside her to being fully buried she’d already had an orgasim, it was normal for her to have multiple orgasims every session. Now all the stars, the moon celestial entities have to be perfectly aligned before she has one fucking.

She still does with me going down on her but says she has to focus more now then in the past. Thank Christ I love going down there.

Best thing we did was talk, it made a thing not a thing anymore. We actually laugh about it now even during sex lol.

A guy can try vitamins or something but honestly you’d be banging your head against the wall.

 

[Bigbear]

Not just age because I've been like that a long time. I've probably never came from a blow job or a hand job and only rarely from the wife riding it. Never any other women riding it. My wife thinks I need to be dominant or in control but I don't think it's that because of other things. Interesting post I'm curious to see what people say. I always thought testosterone would be this magic cure all fix all but it doesn't seem to be the case lol. I don't watch porn either but I used to when I was younger and maybe we could be slightly desensitized permanently from it who knows.

 

[Bigbear]

I think I've read that b6 can lower prolactin and possibly help regenerate quicker. So maybe your right about b vitamins and sexual function

 

[Sorbate]

I never got off from head/handjobs or riding either.

But the last 2 or so years I just can't finish when having sex with my wife. Porn no issues.

My wife blames the gear, but I know its not that.

Now I love her and think she sexy as hell, but I believe its just after a while, sex just isn't what it was. I think why porn works is because I can create a fantasy in my own mind, but that doesn't translate into real sex.

I really don't know what the answer is, but for the longest time my wife thought it was her, and truthfully I thought it may be her as well, but even if she does dirty stuff, just doesn't work.

So I just get her off, try for a bit, if it isn't going to happen, then I quit and snuggle her for a bit so she doesn't feel bad.

Like I told her the last time we had sex, "remember when we first got together and you never got an orgasm (I had to teach her how to get one, because the other guys she slept with sucked), well now its my turn, lol"

I know that sleeping with another woman will not fix this. And I'm not going to chance trying because no way I could cheat on her like that. Could you imagine how that would make her feel?

Its a me thing, I hate to say it, but maybe I've just had too much sex? It's not the big exciting thing like when I was young?

Anyhow 2 weeks ago, I hammered on her so hard trying that I actually hurt her insides pretty bad. She was in pain for like 4 days. She said to me that maybe I need to fuck an escort from now on if I am going to hurt her like this (she was upset). Shes a trooper and ignored the pain during in hopes it would work for me. So like I said it's not her.

What I am happy about though is I am not the only one with this, so in an essence, I guess its kinda normal. It's just too bad, because she gets off easier now (if I do it right, shes done in like 5 minutes, lol), and I'm broken, lol. I have been mentioning this to other guys my age who are not on gear and they are the same.

 

[Bigbear]

I never got off from head/handjobs or riding either.

But the last 2 or so years I just can't finish when having sex with my wife. Porn no issues.

My wife blames the gear, but I know its not that.

Now I love her and think she sexy as hell, but I believe its just after a while, sex just isn't what it was. I think why porn works is because I can create a fantasy in my own mind, but that doesn't translate into real sex.

I really don't know what the answer is, but for the longest time my wife thought it was her, and truthfully I thought it may be her as well, but even if she does dirty stuff, just doesn't work.

So I just get her off, try for a bit, if it isn't going to happen, then I quit and snuggle her for a bit so she doesn't feel bad.

Like I told her the last time we had sex, "remember when we first got together and you never got an orgasm (I had to teach her how to get one, because the other guys she slept with sucked), well now its my turn, lol"

I know that sleeping with another woman will not fix this. And I'm not going to chance trying because no way I could cheat on her like that. Could you imagine how that would make her feel?

Its a me thing, I hate to say it, but maybe I've just had too much sex? It's not the big exciting thing like when I was young?

Anyhow 2 weeks ago, I hammered on her so hard trying that I actually hurt her insides pretty bad. She was in pain for like 4 days. She said to me that maybe I need to fuck an escort from now on if I am going to hurt her like this (she was upset). Shes a trooper and ignored the pain during in hopes it would work for me. So like I said it's not her.

What I am happy about though is I am not the only one with this, so in an essence, I guess its kinda normal. It's just too bad, because she gets off easier now (if I do it right, shes done in like 5 minutes, lol), and I'm broken, lol. I have been mentioning this to other guys my age who are not on gear and they are the same.

That's sad to hear man I feel for ya. If it's bad enough your pissed off about it I'd mention it to your doctor. There's got to be something he can test or give you

 

[Cumminstech2]

Ever since I was early 20's my problem has always been needing longer and more aggressive sex to blow the load. I thought it was pretty uncommon and more common issue being erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. So I didn't really think to bring it up, but seems like a few guys here share my problem.

It's extremely rare for my wife (or previous women) to get me off with a blow job or handjob. They just can't do it aggressively enough to make the magic happen.

My wife only cums when she's riding me and it doesn't take her long, but she can never make me cum when she's on top. The forward/backward grinding doesn't do fuck all for me, its the in and out that works. She really wants to be able to ride me and get me off while she's getting off, but I don;t think that will ever happen..

I don't watch porn. I don't yank it much.

We've tried waiting as long as possible before banging and the issue is, I get way to horny after 4 or 5 days to not get on the wife, but waiting 4 or 5 days does nothing to make me cum easier.

Nothing seems to give me enough sensitiviely to make me blow wihout speed/aggressive etc.. And again, it takes me awhile

I didn't think it's an issue since the journey is enjoyavle, but the wife feels bad because she think's its her. And she'd like to be able to bj/ride/handjob for me.


I've read about some deffiniccy in a vitamin or mineral causing loss or dimished sensation in the dong before.. I think it might be vitamin B12 defficieny?

Is there anything that causes this or can help?

Porn

Don't watch porn

Its poison to the mind

 

[aGuyFromWinnipeg]

For me it's all about what I put in my body. ANY type of drug affects how long it will take me, including ED meds. If I'm clean, I have no problem busting in 2 minutes (seems weird to brag about)

I can get off while getting head but my instructions are "try and kill yourself with it". The gentle shit doesn't work. My wife is amazing and will do things I like, but not that. She gives it how she likes it, gentle and slow-moving. All in all she's way out of my league so if that's the worst of it I'm doing really well.

 

[Cumminstech2]

But the last 2 or so years I just can't finish when having sex with my wife. Porn no issues.

There's your problem and solution right there

I think most guys don't realize how much porn effects their real life sex lives. I can pretty much guaruntee you cut the porn and in 3 months youll last a normal like 7 minutes and grow closer with your wife.

Anybody in this thread with any kind of issues.. If you watch porn, there's the answer and solution right there. I promise you.

You know why you older guys didn't experience this when you were younger, its cause you couldn't type whatever you wanted into google and have instant access to it. You jerked your dick to the sears magazine bra section like fucking pilgrims. Real sex was WAY better, so you had no issues.

Now you have instant access to whatever you want whenever you want. Porn has become better than sex, and that's the reason for 99% of these issues.

 

[Durk]

Ever since I was early 20's my problem has always been needing longer and more aggressive sex to blow the load. I thought it was pretty uncommon and more common issue being erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. So I didn't really think to bring it up, but seems like a few guys here share my problem.

It's extremely rare for my wife (or previous women) to get me off with a blow job or handjob. They just can't do it aggressively enough to make the magic happen.

My wife only cums when she's riding me and it doesn't take her long, but she can never make me cum when she's on top. The forward/backward grinding doesn't do fuck all for me, its the in and out that works. She really wants to be able to ride me and get me off while she's getting off, but I don;t think that will ever happen..

I don't watch porn. I don't yank it much.

We've tried waiting as long as possible before banging and the issue is, I get way to horny after 4 or 5 days to not get on the wife, but waiting 4 or 5 days does nothing to make me cum easier.

Nothing seems to give me enough sensitiviely to make me blow wihout speed/aggressive etc.. And again, it takes me awhile

I didn't think it's an issue since the journey is enjoyavle, but the wife feels bad because she think's its her. And she'd like to be able to bj/ride/handjob for me.


I've read about some deffiniccy in a vitamin or mineral causing loss or dimished sensation in the dong before.. I think it might be vitamin B12 defficieny?

Is there anything that causes this or can help?

The grinding thing I only think works for them. I get mine to move her ass up and down on top like she’s twerking when I want to blow. The angle and the muscle control grips me in a way that it’s like I’m getting a hand job from her vagina.

 

[Cain]

Same issues, head don't work! Never has. Takes days sometimes to bust a nut with the wife these days. It was hard before in my 30s and now almost 50 like a second job. Lol
I found tren caused it to increase the problem.

 

[Sorbate]

That's sad to hear man I feel for ya. If it's bad enough your pissed off about it I'd mention it to your doctor. There's got to be something he can test or give you

I think its just called getting older and being together with the same woman for 29 years.
I had asked my uncle about this before and he said as you get older the shine wears off and it takes longer or doesn’t happen.

It gets like right there, but just doesn’t finish. I have zero issues getting or staying hard even without cialis. SO really nothing a doctor can do.

 

[Sorbate]

There's your problem and solution right there

I think most guys don't realize how much porn effects their real life sex lives. I can pretty much guaruntee you cut the porn and in 3 months youll last a normal like 7 minutes and grow closer with your wife.

Anybody in this thread with any kind of issues.. If you watch porn, there's the answer and solution right there. I promise you.

You know why you older guys didn't experience this when you were younger, its cause you couldn't type whatever you wanted into google and have instant access to it. You jerked your dick to the sears magazine bra section like fucking pilgrims. Real sex was WAY better, so you had no issues.

Now you have instant access to whatever you want whenever you want. Porn has become better than sex, and that's the reason for 99% of these issues.

Working on that. I have to admit I am very adddicted.

My sex drive and my wifes was different when I was younger (like 30’s) and i used porn as a way to keep from being angry about not getting it 2 times a day, lol. Then it turned into a full blown addiction.

I have cut myself down to EOD, lol. Eventually I will stop.

 

[Bigbear]

I think its just called getting older and being together with the same woman for 29 years.
I had asked my uncle about this before and he said as you get older the shine wears off and it takes longer or doesn’t happen.

It gets like right there, but just doesn’t finish. I have zero issues getting or staying hard even without cialis. SO really nothing a doctor can do.

Oh yea sorry man I didn't realize you mentioned no issue with porn. I was going to suggest maybe shbg or prolactin as a culprit but you know what your doing anyway you don't need me to say lol

 

[Sorbate]

Oh yea sorry man I didn't realize you mentioned no issue with porn. I was going to suggest maybe shbg or prolactin as a culprit but you know what your doing anyway you don't need me to say lol

Yeah, even 2 or 3 times a day with porn and it will work, I’m just a porn addict, lol.

 

[Bigbear]

Working on that. I have to admit I am very adddicted.

My sex drive and my wifes was different when I was younger (like 30’s) and i used porn as a way to keep from being angry about not getting it 2 times a day, lol. Then it turned into a full blown addiction.

I have cut myself down to EOD, lol. Eventually I will stop.

I think this is 100 percent the issue lol eod is a lot. Not a lot for average guys but average guys have Ed and sex issues now a days

 

[Sorbate]

I think this is 100 percent the issue lol eod is a lot. Not a lot for average guys but average guys have Ed and sex issues now a days

Oh there are times I am so bad its like 2 times a day for weeks on end. Not sure where I find the time, lol.
Ok its bad enough my wife named my iPad, I can’t remember the name female name she gave it. A couple times she asked if I needed the iPad in bed, lol.

I wanted to say yes, but didn’t want to get my ass kicked.

When I was younger I was sooooo horney, like over the top. I would get angry if I couldn’t get sex, this was far before steroids. So I used pRon as a release. But as Cumminstech2 said, it was with Victorias Secret Catalogues and such, not streaming porn. Streaming porn is the downfall Of society, no matter how much I love it, lol.

 

[Bigbear]

Oh there are times I am so bad its like 2 times a day for weeks on end. Not sure where I find the time, lol.
Ok its bad enough my wife named my iPad, I can’t remember the name female name she gave it. A couple times she asked if I needed the iPad in bed, lol.

I wanted to say yes, but didn’t want to get my ass kicked.

When I was younger I was sooooo horney, like over the top. I would get angry if I couldn’t get sex, this was far before steroids. So I used pRon as a release. But as Cumminstech2 said, it was with Victorias Secret Catalogues and such, not streaming porn. Streaming porn is the downfall Of society, no matter how much I love it, lol.

It's funny we're even talking about this because I mentioned Ed like 2 years ago and I'm pretty sure you told me it's most likely from porn lmfao. The wife and I had a while where we watched it together to spice things up. It just got messy and annoying to say the least

 

[Sorbate]

It's funny we're even talking about this because I mentioned Ed like 2 years ago and I'm pretty sure you told me it's most likely from porn lmfao. The wife and I had a while where we watched it together to spice things up. It just got messy and annoying to say the least

Do as I say not as I do kinda thing, lol.

 

[Taureau]

I think its just called getting older and being together with the same woman for 29 years.
I had asked my uncle about this before and he said as you get older the shine wears off and it takes longer or doesn’t happen.

It gets like right there, but just doesn’t finish. I have zero issues getting or staying hard even without cialis. SO really nothing a doctor can do.

If you can finish by using your hand then it's not physical. It's mental. The way to be sure is to see how you would do with someone new and exciting. But I know you will not do that. However perhaps your wife would be open to her inviting a friend to join. If she does don't ignore the wife or it will not happen again. Give attention to both but more to your wife. Odds are you get excited enough to come.

And you will have a good memory to recall and help in your future sexual escapades