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True that.
It bugs your wife. A lot. Nuff said. Well done!
Start flirting with him back. Tell him he’s got a fat ass, and a nice mouth. Establish dominance.
Yeah fuck that. Thats just disrespecting you. I would be having a chat with him for sure.
You did the right thing, he was trying to bang her for sure. Shit that is the type of crap I would have done to work her, minus the cutting hair thing, that borders creepy.
Your girlfriend likely liked it a bit as well, who doesn't like attention, but didn't want you to shit on him too bad, so may have gotten defensive when you gave him shit. You did the total right thing. You need to mark what is yours. And she was likely starting to avoid him because she noticed it was bothering you.
As long as you don't freak out every time a guy hits on her, you'll be fine. Woman need attention from men other than just you to feel good about themselves. As long as you are doing what you need to, she will not leave. And when you see things getting too friendly setting a boundry is one of those things.
I see nothing wrong with harmless flirting, and was fine with my wife flirting, but she wouldn't have cut his hair or nothing like that.
I have had to deal with this for 25 years. My wife is damn good looking, even at 58 guys still drool on her. (Thank god she doesn't think she that good looking, or I never would have had a chance) I couldn't leave to go to the bathroom at a bar, or pub and some dude or dudes would be talking to her hitting on her. (until she turned 50, thank god it slowed down, even though it still happens)
My wife was from a small town originally, so she would just get nervous and pray I would get back soon. Later on she started to take care of these guys with her smart ass attitude, lol. Or we would be walking down the street and guys would whistle, didn't give a shit I was there, lol. Truthfully my wife liked it, but not in the, I'm going to cheat way, but it made her feel better about herself. I never freaked out on her though. Wasn't her fault. I used to tease her about how tough things are when you are so good looking that men do anything you want and drool on you all the time, like how do you stand it, it must be pure torture, lol.
But my wife and I hang out and talk to each other all the time, we are each others best friends.
I would just explain to her about how it bothered you. Unless you have already done this. I believe the key is if you have a woman others want, make sure your relationship is good, and communicate and you'll have no worries. But yeah he was being a dick and you needed to set him straight.
You got a pretty mouth boy
Lmao shit would get real uncomfortable at get togethers
I'm not a huge fan of guys getting chummy with my wife either, but I'm also a jealous person, and tren does it no justice, one of the reasons I don't touch the stuff anymore, really fucks my head up, for some it's the nectar of the gods, for me it's the nectar of divorce
Just the fact that your wife doesn't like it is enough for something to be said, definitely does t have to be rude or confrontational, although it may still come across that way, just direct and to the point that neither of you think it's appropriate and hopefully it ends there
And when you get that gut feeling, then do something.
My wife now gets a bit annoyed when woman like to touch my arms. One time at Home Depot, regular till lady saw me, walked over and grabbed my arm asking what I was buying, my wife was right there, walking behind me, then she says, “hey you want me to hold your cape”. Like I was a king or something. The other lady let go and went her way, lol.
I love it, she gets a bit of what I used to always deal with.
Hey, I think of other guys flirting like us going to the strippers. I don’t care where she gets her appetite, as long as she eats at home, lol.
It's doesn't need to be confrontational at all youre right but, it most definitely needs to be rude. Some people need to be reminded that there may be repercussions for they're actions.
I’m with TOG on this one lolBang his gf. Problem solved.
ironwill
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Sometimes a good chat behind the woodshed alone really helps.
I’ve got a hot ol lady, real hot and she is loyal as the day is long and never ever flirts etc. It never crosses my mind.
But there has been several times a fellow mistook her kindness for something else. She has a firm side and she has laid it out. I let her deal with it, but when it does keep going, 10/10 times booze is involved.
I wait for my chance, then I say while he is alone, come outside for a quick chat, I need to run something by you. Different times is different conversations, but always I ensure there is no mistake in the expectations moving forward.
Works well
I’ve done it in front of people and several folks get embarrassed and sometimes the dude thinks he needs to posture if he feels ornery. So that never turns out well. So now I attempt to not humiliate him in front of others, but if happens it happens, and I lose not one second of sleep over it ever on him or what anyone else thinks.
You did the right thing, and I don’t think you are paranoid. Consider pulling him off to the side, or don’t. That’s your call depending on the scenario. IMHO
I’ve got a hot ol lady, real hot and she is loyal as the day is long and never ever flirts etc. It never crosses my mind.
But there has been several times a fellow mistook her kindness for something else. She has a firm side and she has laid it out. I let her deal with it, but when it does keep going, 10/10 times booze is involved.
I wait for my chance, then I say while he is alone, come outside for a quick chat, I need to run something by you. Different times is different conversations, but always I ensure there is no mistake in the expectations moving forward.
Works well
I’ve done it in front of people and several folks get embarrassed and sometimes the dude thinks he needs to posture if he feels ornery. So that never turns out well. So now I attempt to not humiliate him in front of others, but if happens it happens, and I lose not one second of sleep over it ever on him or what anyone else thinks.
You did the right thing, and I don’t think you are paranoid. Consider pulling him off to the side, or don’t. That’s your call depending on the scenario. IMHO