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Sorry you are going to have to fuck your sister…..no way around it. Or I could come do it for you.
My wife will flirt, but only when it was safe, like at work behind a counter, not at the bars.
Most guys are really respectful if you just point out that they are taken. Never had to get confrontational. Mind you after a while I’d give the death stare before I’d go to the bathroom, lol. It was easier, I wouldn’t come back to a guy at the table.
When I moved out here, the woman to men ratio is more woman, so not the same issues, but the first time we were at a pub, I gave the death stare before going to the bathroom, the bouncer came in to pee and asked me if I had an issue, I asked why, he said I looked at every guy like I was going to kill them, lol.
I told him the situation, then he laughed and said, don’t worry here, the guys are really good. There was only a few stupidly drunk ones over the years, but I’d just point out other woman, or my wife would and they would calm down.
The biggest ones I have to watch are the lesbians, they really love her. Very forward as well. It grosses her out, she is not into that at all, I love teasing her about it.
But you know, having someone else find you appealing is an ego boost, just as long as they don’t get carried away it’s all good.
I remember one time we were at a club, bunch of us went out, I didn’t feel like dancing at the moment, my brother was dancing with my wife, so I’m having a drink, standing by the dance floor, chatting with some dude, he says to me, why is that smoking hot chick with that loser. I say, that’s my wife and my brother. Poor guy shit himself and kept apoligizing. I was like it’s ok, I know my wife is hot, that’s why I married her, and my brother is a bit of a dork, and he was nice enough to buy me a beer. One of the girls from work were with us, I introduced them, best part is they hit it off and eventually got married. The world can be a funny place.
I guess we just have to bear the curse of having good looking woman.
oh @Jerbear my wife read what you wrote and said you didn’t over react. He was crossing the boundary, and thought the haircut thing was creepy as well.
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Shit already sounds uncomfortable. I find guys like that think you don’t know what they’re doing, until it’s pointed out very obviously. So in my experience, over the top flirting with him usually gets your point across, without making you look overly jealous. A bartender my little lady works with got out of line, so I went and told him he had nice eyes, and that I’d fuck him missionary; infront of everyone he works with. Everyone laughed, and he obviously felt horribly emasculated. It makes you look funny and comfortable with your sexuality. And if he gets ornery, he’s the homophobic asshole, who can’t take a joke. He quit crossing lines when he realized how uncomfortable unwanted advances are.
The way i see these things is, if a guy i dont know is hitting on my wife, its up to her to shut it down.
If someone we both know is trying to snake my wife behind my back, i take that as him spitting in my face. This is a very serious and dangerous situation. Even if shes not interested, that guy is still disrespecting me
If someone we both know is trying to snake my wife behind my back, i take that as him spitting in my face. This is a very serious and dangerous situation. Even if shes not interested, that guy is still disrespecting me
Ok I’ll be serious.
My ex wife was a bit of a rocket and got lots of attention which she loved. It never bothered me as I’d tell her once you cross that line there would be no coming back. In the end the attention was too much and she did cheat, true to my word she was gone.
She tried for years to reconcile but I stood firm.
Ultimately it becomes up to the lady. @Jerbear it sounds like your wife doesn’t relish this attention so your stepping in and telling him to back off is the right move.
My ex wife was a bit of a rocket and got lots of attention which she loved. It never bothered me as I’d tell her once you cross that line there would be no coming back. In the end the attention was too much and she did cheat, true to my word she was gone.
She tried for years to reconcile but I stood firm.
Ultimately it becomes up to the lady. @Jerbear it sounds like your wife doesn’t relish this attention so your stepping in and telling him to back off is the right move.
There is no issue when some random guy chats up your lady, but when it’s someone who knows the score then it’s totally disrespectful.
That being said I’d first always she what she does, before I would react.
This is why you should only date fat ugly gargoyles.
Fit ? Bodybuilder ?? Holy shit I just figured out why everyone is always talking about PEDs on this forum.
Also tbh was very happy that she was someone else’s problem.
You probably not paranoid or jealous it might be your instincts from background, history and culture 
No, I think I’m nuts lol you are pretty normal compared to me!!
You can have her back now if you like...
I’m confused…..So according to some members in this thread…. The best way to deal with an over flirtatious dood trying to work your wife /girlfriend is to tell him you want to have sex with him?
Hmmmm…. I don’t exactly follow the logic on that one. Doesn’t sound like a move that makes you funny or comfortable with your sexuality…..sounds like questioning behaviour??
Or at the very least……sounds like the trenbolone talking.
Hmmmm…. I don’t exactly follow the logic on that one. Doesn’t sound like a move that makes you funny or comfortable with your sexuality…..sounds like questioning behaviour??
Or at the very least……sounds like the trenbolone talking.
Haha. Isnt 2022 fucked up?
There was a time when if a guy was messing with your woman, you just punch him out.
You could punch their faces in but most people run to authorities nowadays...document their own beatdown for social media proof that 'you' were the aggressor and they are just victims.
In this specific case with @Jerbear, I would recommend making it very clear what the boundaries are...if they don't back off then they are just asking for it, in the end you gotta set and reset boundaries with people until they understand...don't take shit from anyone...we deserve better for ourselves are our loved ones count on us for being there for them in such situations.
I was just staying out of it. I work with a gay guy all day and we joke around and it was still too gay for me, lol.
I personally would just ignore it I ignore the flirting every day because I don’t want to be with anybody simple as that! Why make a big deal over it?? It’s not like she’s having sex with him, you just going to have to trust your woman!! Or she needs to step up and say something herself, I would’ve if something bothers me I would’ve said something to that person… She’s grown she’s adult she can talk for her behalf, she doesn’t need a man to talk for her right?
I ignore the flirting every day because I don’t want to be with anybody simple as that! Why make a big deal over it?? It’s not like she’s having sex with him, you just going to have to trust your woman!! Or she needs to step up and say something herself, I would’ve if something bothers me I would’ve said something to that person… She’s grown she’s adult she can talk for her behalf, she doesn’t need a man to talk for her right?
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every guy knows not to try and "spend time" or be overly friendly with another man's partner - it's guy code. Be friendly and polite, but don't create a little 1:1 relationship. He knows what he's doing... A lot of guys like this will just test the waters, it's grooming. He'll slowly push boundaries and see if he gets any response. And maybe one day while everybody is passed out and they've had a few drinks he'll make a move - he's already laid the ground work. Guys like this plant little seeds wherever they can with the hopes that one day, one of them will lead to an opportunity.
If it was me, I'd talk to my wife and just say hey I don't trust this guy and I don't want to make a scene(again) - so do me a favor and strongly avoid this guy until he gets the hint.
But ya, you can't make a scene and call him out - that just makes you look bad.
If it was me, I'd talk to my wife and just say hey I don't trust this guy and I don't want to make a scene(again) - so do me a favor and strongly avoid this guy until he gets the hint.
But ya, you can't make a scene and call him out - that just makes you look bad.
Be careful with that friend, what he’s doing is a little too much, I would confront him about this, or maybe your wife is not telling you the whole story lol
There is nothing gay about passionately establishing your dominance over another man.