Oh man, similar story here, not as severe but a rough ride. My wife was on birth control pills before kids and no prob so after a close friend of her's got an IUD and the results were amazing so she tried it too. She could not fight the weight gain no matter what and it was altering her mood so severely that she was a raging biatch (she agrees) without knowing why and she felt like she was going crazy and not able to be herself. Ditched the IUD and a few months later when she felt ok tried the pill just as a last ditch effort and the weight gain problem came back. She ditched the pills before they could alter her mood.
Shes been working hard and nearly cut all the weight off now. Her period is heavy that hasnt changed but it's more frequent now, like the time between has been reduced. Shes hoping it goes back to how it was and will just live with it now as she's too scared to try anything else.
Likely my sperm would have been shot cuz of the gear use by now too but I can't afford to take any chances. If I had to go back to ground 0 with a baby I'd seriously have to consider taking a stroll on the tracks to give Thomas the Tank Engine a big hug at full speed.
Does she have fibroids or has she even been checked for them? A lot of similarities with my wife and much of it comes down to my wifes fibroids causing the issues.. She's always had them, but dr's are telling her for whatever reason they are grown or acting up in the last few years. My wife is 40 and I think its common to have them and just as common for them to act up and cause issues around 40/after kids.
Are your wife's periods regular? When thinks are really fucked for my wife, she gets a period every 2 weeks.. one is not a real period, but lots of bleeding, the 2nd "period" is like a tsunamia of blood, emotions and anxiety lol.. Dr's tell her IUD will help keep iron better.. but dr's also want to look into burning them off/cutting them off or a total hysterectomy.
Does your wife have low iron? man, it causes so many issues for my wife and she can't stomach iron pills very well either.
Funny, Dr's are recommending my wife try a IUD to reduce blood loose/iron depletion from her heavy periods.. WIfe doesnt' want to try it and I don't blame her.